"Feral ~ from feminine of ferus wild: having escaped from domestication and become wild"...




Sunday

Mothers day



All of us had someone who gave birth to us, 
but not all of us had a mother 
who was there for us.







It's been 11 years since I had a mother.

Time has a way of tenderizing your memories.

Sometimes when I think of something funny, 

I wish I could call her to make her laugh.  


  She loved her family,
and 
She liked to laugh. 

Like me.

Sometimes she visits me in my dreams. 







I wake up smiling.








I am a mother too, but I have been a feral one.
  
Like my mother before me, 

I was and am a working mom.




I raised my children to be independent

 

and 


to know that they are strong and capable. 






Because sometimes, 

I wasn't there for them when I should have been, 

like my mom. 





But just like my mom, 
they know that they are very much loved.





Then there are some of us 
who may have not had that at all. 





Mother's day can be kind of painful.


 So today, 

I am sharing a picture of my Busia with you.

Because any day with Busia in it is a good day.


I'm pretty sure if you needed a mom,
she would have gladly fed you,
gave you good advice,

and

hugged you afterward.


Even if you felt like you didn't need it.



xoxo




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11 comments:

  1. The picture of you with your daughters looks like three sisters! I think it is very important to raise children who are independent, too. -Jenn

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  2. Sniff... where is the kleenex? Your post touched my heart. Happy Mother's Day to you. I love all of your pictures, and your thoughts. All well said!

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  3. Happy Mothers Day Janice. My mother raised me to be independent and I I did the same with my kids. It's an important gift.

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  4. As Annette wrote: Happy Mother's Day, Janice. My mother, too, has gone to that land that knows no shadow. Laughter is a good trait to share with your daughters. Which of us is perfect so that we are always where we are needed? You did your best. Happy Sunday, Roland

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  5. It was hard to read this--my eyes were all wet!!

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  6. Powerful and insightful. My mother also raised me to be independent, she supported me leaving for America. I couldn't have asked for a better mom. She's been gone for 30 years this fall, but I still talk to her and she lives in my heart. With Errol. Love you my friend. Happy Mother's Day.

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  7. Happy Mother's Day to you. I lost my mom when I was just 18 and she only 45, so this can be a painful day. Here's to feral mothers everywhere, even those long gone.

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  8. I always need a hug. I tend to think that feral mothers are the best - had I been a mother, I would have undoubtedly been a feral mother. I am mother to my dogs - and they are the best I could hope for. Hope you had a wonderful day.

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  9. The photo of you and your daughters is SPECTACULAR!

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