All of us had someone who gave birth to us,
but not all of us had a mother
who was there for us.
It's been 11 years since I had a mother.
Time has a way of tenderizing your memories.
Sometimes when I think of something funny,
I wish I could call her to make her laugh.
She loved her family,
She liked to laugh.
Sometimes she visits me in my dreams.
I wake up smiling.
I am a mother too, but I have been a feral one.
Like my mother before me,
I was and am a working mom.
I raised my children to be independent
to know that they are strong and capable.
I wasn't there for them when I should have been,
like my mom.
But just like my mom,
they know that they are very much loved.
Then there are some of us
who may have not had that at all.
Mother's day can be kind of painful.
I am sharing a picture of my Busia with you.
Because any day with Busia in it is a good day.
I'm pretty sure if you needed a mom,
she would have gladly fed you,
gave you good advice,
hugged you afterward.
Even if you felt like you didn't need it.